15 Things Every Preacher's Wife Should Know

 (Ephesians 5:22-24). If the Lord calls a man into the ministry, He calls the whole man, and that includes the man's wife and his family.



I think that there are certain Preachers Wives out there who are delusional, they have somehow gotten the idea that the world revolves around them, or that the church owes them something. I don't know about you, but the majority of other pastors wives I have met are extremely stuck up, loud mouths, and think they are God's gift to the church. However, I have met a few from time to time who are actually humble, thankful for their position, and just want to serve the Lord the best way they know how. Based on other pastors wives, and even things I've had to learn myself, I have created this list that every Preacher's Wife should know before marrying a Pastor, or should know should her husband be called to be one....

ONE) No one REALLY cares about your opinion, they are simply being nice!
TWO) Do not expect that you are ever going to be appreciated for the work you do behind the scenes. Just know that Jesus knows, and He is the only one that matters anyway.
THREE) Think Before you speak, because you know by the time it gets to the third church member, it will be completely different than what you're original statement was.
FOUR) Never tell a church member that you are concerned about the path they are going down, no matter how concerned you are, because it will only be perceived as you judging them, and will either cause a lot of drama in the church, or that person may never grace the doors of your church again.
FIVE) Before marrying a Pastor, remember that you are now going to be a public figure. People are watching every move you make, and just waiting for you to make a mistake. If you are not ready to be a good girl, then you're not ready for this marriage.
SIX) Every thing you do is going to effect how others view your husband. He may be innocent as can be, but YOU do something wrong, and they will blame HIM for not keeping his wife under control!
SEVEN) Just because your husband is the pastor, the head of the church, does NOT mean YOU are.
EIGHT) Be involved, but try your best to not be the leader of anything, other than maybe Sunday school or a women's bible study. When you start putting yourself in charge of things, you start running yourself thin, and people will also think you are trying to micromanage the church.
NINE) Don't forget a cami under EVERYTHING you wear, even if you think you are fully covered, because there will always be that little old lady who thinks you're not!
TEN) Church is not the place to try and be fashionable. True, you want to look nice, but consider the church you are attending. If you're at a little country church, I seriously doubt they care anything about your designer outfit and accessories.
ELEVEN) EARN your friends. Just because you are the pastors wife, does not mean that people will automatically be your friend. You must earn their respect there, just like you would anywhere. Be nice, considerate of others feelings, genuinely care about your church family, do things for others without expecting something in return, and your church will love you.
TWELVE) There are going to be days that you may not see your husband. He has certain responsibilities and obligations to his church members that he cannot just ignore because you want him to come home. Don't be jealous of the attention he gives his ministry and other church members.
THIRTEEN) There WILL be times where your husband will get that call in the middle of the night, during that special date night, or when you're child has 103 fever, and he has to leave you to attend to a someone else. You will have to learn to put on your BIG GIRL PANTIES, suck it up, and give him a big kiss as he walks out the door. WITHOUT being angry.
FOURTEEN) Remember, you signed up for this. Don't blame everyone else because you are unhappy.
FIFTEEN) Support your husband in all that he does. Do not criticize his decisions. If he does not feel he has your support, then his ministry will suffer if he does not have that confidence that is rooted in your relationship.